Monday, November 18, 2013

It’s me or you…. Sex (Virginia on Ice)

The following post comes from a reader.  It highlights how often when we are working on self improvement “romantic” relationship and subsequently sex are put on the back burner.  This reader spoke with a Sex therapist about the struggle of  abstinence working on some personal changes.  I appreciate the reader for allowing me to share their experiences. 
Check the post out and leave your comments. 

Last night I almost did it. Yep, exactly what you think “it” is only nastier. Hot, steamy, ass smacking, lip locking, cheese omelet in the morning making fun.
Well not exactly. You see I have been on a quest for self growth and personal growth. During this trek I have had little to no sex and no sex for me equals a busy mind and a cramped hand. Blah, blah, blah…
So back to last night, boy I was ready. Phone in hand, text typed and ready to send. I was prepared to invite him over to a meeting. All he needed to bring was his thinking cap. I would joyfully provide the rest. Playlist ready. Fresh sheets. And little ole me freshly cleaned feeling light and limber. Ready for tons of dictation. So I sat eager and nervous all at the same time. My body told me I needed this. Hell my friends even said, I need some good dick and a nap. And here comes good old logic creeping in to remind me why I haven’t done it. DAMN
I have a Sistar De who is a sex therapist AskASexTherapist@gmail.com. https://www.facebook.com/pages/Ask-A-Sex-Therapist/444222249020042
So I used her expertise help with my problem. Here is our correspondence. Please email her if you have any questions. She is amazing.
      Me to AskASexTherapist:

I think I broke my Virginia. I was once a very active woman and now I'm not. It had been months since i had had any kind of penetration. But I do masturbate quite frequently. I recently had intercourse and I was unable to climax. I would be close and thennnnn....Nothing! No matter how much rubbing, touching and or additional stimuli I couldn't. Could it be a mental issue or is it just me?

Sincerely,

No happy endings for Virginia

AskASexTherapist to Me:

First of all, thanks for submitting your question. I'll give a short answer on YouTube but wanted to respond to you in written form as well.

The vagina is very resilient, so no worries, you didn't break it. Because you're able to orgasm with self-stimulation, that shows there are no problems with physical function. Have you ever been able to climax through penetration? Or was it always a combination of external clitoral stimulation and penetration?

Also, having an orgasm with a partner can, at times, require a lot of trust. Sometimes we can be in our heads so much that we forget to enjoy the sensations we're experiencing. If we're focusing so much on climaxing, it becomes an obstacle for our bodies and minds.

If you'd like more info or would like to discuss it further, just let me know!

Me to AskASexTherapist:

Thanks for answering. Yes, I have able to climax through penetration only. I think it may have been the guy and my mind. I have found that since treat people and my body differently my reactions to things have changed. I know casual sex is not what I want to i feel that by having it I couldn't climax because my mind wouldn't make the connection. But it could have just been him.

Thanks again,

AskASexTherapist to Me:

And there it is.

You've been doing a lot of work to give yourself your best and when you experience something that doesn't measure up to your new standards, it's not fulfilling. True, he could've been a bad lay, but you've also been filling your mind, body, and spirit with the best you can provide. On some level, it could be that your body and spirit have a taste for something other than what was offered

SO I sat horny as a teenage boy with this information. As bad as I want to I won’t have sex. Unless there is a true connection, a mental and physical connection I’m good.. Any man can play with your body but I want mind sex. The kind that makes you want to nurture that person. Find his likes and dislikes and help further his dreams. The type of loving that can do more with just words than the hands ever could. I’m not say in giving up on the physical. Hell NOO! I love it, it is need but until I can have both my Virginia will be on ice.

Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Are any of the stories in Confessions of a faithful woman true?

11:00 PM - 8 Oct 13 Reader  posted:
"I'm almost finished with @SimplyMilele 's book #coafw (Confessions of a faithful woman)   Which leads me to want to know are some of these stories true?" 

I have been asked this numerous times in numerous ways.  I started to blog about it on several occasions since I published the book in June of 2012 BUT decided not to each time.  This time however I decided to tackle the question as best I can.  I usually give a “non answer” because the answer is not as simple as yes or no.  Every truth has some fiction whether it is the perspective, interpretation, intent or the omission of other truths.  Likewise all fiction begins with some form of truth that is stretched, flavored, and colored in a manner to create an alternate reality.  As we grow and change what was “true/real” for us at one point becomes unfathomable at other points and things that were unfathomable become absolutely true/real. Each story, character, setting, scenario and experience in the book has come from something, someone, and somewhere I have directly or indirectly come across.  All the historical information about culture, holidays, places and events are true and for informational purposes.  All locations, businesses, books and artists mentioned throughout the book are real from either the pass, present or future (in the works).  All issues and hurdles the characters encounters are 100% real to me in some shape or form.  In writing this book I wanted to make it as “real” as possible so I poured as much of myself and those close to me in it as I could.  Interestingly enough some of the stories that seem the most far fetched are some of the ones where less imagination was needed.  Writing the book was a journey of self discovery for me and took place over the course of several years.  Some of the stories were over a decade old by the time I published the book. It was all in life I had experienced 1st, 2nd or 3rd hand of sex, love, relationships, life, initiation and the world at those points in time. When I decided to write a book (before then I was just writing what came to me randomly) I began to seek experiences from others of things that would be good to have in this type of book.  Many from many different places and times shared with me their perspectives. I intended to write in a way that allowed the reader to grow and reflect each time they read a story.  There are hidden things in the book that will only be noticed or understood if you have a certain perspective.  I have had readers tell me time and time again that they saw themselves in the stories and connected with the characters on a very deep and personal level.  I have had those who shared with me thank me for telling their “truth” in a way that others could relate to while keeping the integrity of what they wanted conveyed. EVERY reader so far has been able to see a reflection of themselves in at least one of the stories or poems.  I am able to see myself and those closest to me at different stages in life when I reread the stories. One of the most profound discoveries in writing and sharing the “Confessions…” series for me has been how truly uncomfortable MOST adults in this society are about OPENLY sharing their experiences, likes, preferences and views on sexuality and spirituality and how many want to be able to share all of themselves with the world.
My writing is to help open the door and set the stage for adults to have a healthy holistic sexual and spiritual life in a place and time where it isn’t taught, nurtured, supported or promoted, to restore our culture (Afrikan culture) to its traditional greatness and to challenge perspectives of homosexuality, monogamy, capitalism, oppression and what is "normal and natural"

So the answer would be definitely yes AND categorically no. 
I challenge EVERYONE to read, reread or rererereread the book as they change and experience new things in life and ask themselves:
“Which of the stories are true for me?”

Thursday, September 26, 2013

Graduation

Graduation is the story of a blooming relationship between a mature woman and a maturing young man who happens into her bookstore.  As she helps him transition from college to career he helps her transition from behind the counter to between the sheets.

Below I answer questions for readers
****I did not mention names for a reason.  If you haven’t read it yet check it out.  If you have read it read it again with this new information.

1. I feel the Bookstore is a main character in the story, is that true?
Yes it is, I grew up in a book store.  I met many people and learned many things there.  Bookstores are like train/bus station or airports to me.  People are coming there to find new destinations; their modes of transportation are the books.  Reading is cheapest, most exciting and convenient way of traveling.
 
2. Why did you list the books he purchased in the story?
My hope was that people would relate to them if they had read them and read them if they had not.  I try to offer the readers ways to continue the story long after they have read it.  When you know what’s in those books you get a better understanding of the character and what they were thinking or doing.  You also can get more tangible perspectives on the deeper elements of sexuality.  I also want to promote an Afrikan perspective to people so that we will not feel that we have to squeeze ourselves into boxes or modes of operating that don’t fit.  As we study other cultures we can find new things that work better for us.

3. Do you feel these books are essential for Black spirituality and sexuality?
Absolutely!!!! Unfortunately we are not taught the traditional practices and teaching around sexuality and spirituality.  This can cause us to seek fulfillment in things that will never be able to satiate us without the more intimate connections and holistic approaches.  I have read all of them more than once in my adolescence and again as I matured.  Each time I read them I have gained a deeper understanding. That’s the things with books that are well written they offer you a new journey each time.  It is like “sight seeing” when you travel, you only really notice what you are looking for at the moment. My hope is after reading these or considering things the reader will find something new in these stories as well.

4. I love how in Graduation you created a positive young Black man with this character. Do you feel that we are lacking characters like him in today’s books?
I am surrounded by positive black men, young and old.  I have been all of my life.  The majority of black men are doing good things.  They are often over shadowed by negative media representations.  I write from my truth so this character was a reflection of the men I have met, grown up with, been in relationships and come across in some form in my lifetime.  Yes I think we are lacking characters like him in books but not in reality.  It is my responsibility to highlight those black men who are often overlooked but who represent the majority of black men.
 
5. Will we see more of these characters in the future? I would love to see what the future hold for them.
Only time will tell J  But if there is a large demand for them I will definitely work to meet that demand.  There are so many wonderful stories about black love to tell it is very likely it can be continued.
 
At the end of the chapter, what language was she speaking and what did she say?
She is speaking an ancient pre Kemetic language that causes the “Atum” to awaken within him.  It is a practice sparking the energy of something to activate it. They are more intonation that “words” as we think of today.  It is the vibration of them that makes them work.   She is basically saying “get hard/arise”
 
Do you look at the woman as being a “cougar”?
That’s funny, and no.  You have to look at the perspective of things.  This is not a woman who sought him out or even initiated the relationship.  She was literally minding her own business when the young man graced her door step.  He obliviously had been attracted to her for years, where as, she was not interested in him initially.  His growth over the years and even his willingness to learn and grow past his comfort zone caused her to notice him.  She is a responsible woman like most of us are and would only take him as far as he needed to go. 
 
What was here relationship with the old man?  Was he only mentoring the young man to get next to her?
They had known and worked with each other for many years.  The had mutual love and respect for one another.  He had pursued her for years but she was not interested because he was known around turn for being with multiple women.  He was also very wealthy and active in the community so everyone paid attention to what he was doing, she prefers discretion. Although it may have helped the young man get him foot in the door, the older man genuinely is trying to help him and teach him the ropes.

 

 

 

Wednesday, September 11, 2013

"UIB interviews author, Milele, about "Confessions of a Faithful Woman."

Please take a moment (bout 30 min) to listen to the open interview about love, sex, relationships, spirit, oppression and so much more. As I prepare the second book in the "Confessions..." series I would like for you to get to know me better.

Feel free to leave your comments or questions or opinion I LOVE hearing from each of you.

As always I appreciate everyone who takes their time out.

Share with me...

 
 

Tuesday, July 9, 2013

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Wednesday, July 3, 2013

I LOVE MY READERS!!!!!! One year strong!!!!!!!!!


It has been a year since “Confessions of a faithful woman” was published!  Over the course of this year many readers and supporters have shared their thoughts, views, reviews, critiques and understandings with me.   I am forever grateful for and humbled by every exchange.  Not only have you all embraced the book and the meaning behind it.  You all have allowed me in on your intimate thoughts and experiences.  I appreciate that more than words could ever express.  This post is dedicated to the readers and supporters.  I truly love, honor and respect each of you.  Those who are anonymous choose to be so because of circumstances not because they are ashamed of their thoughts or views.  Once again Asante sana. Nakupenda!!! (Thank you very much. I love you)

*Disclaimer I love the author of this book so I will attempt to be objective.*
“Confessions of A Faithful Woman” or COAFW for short is an excellent book filled with poems and short stories about life, spirituality, sensuality and love. After a series of tweets with my sisstar De I learned about COAFW. I became friends with Milele and purchased the book. After a night filled with dancing, I popped the book open to read a couple of pages but much to my surprise I was hooked and the book was stuck to my face the next morning. I was in trance by the stories and the writing in this book. I am a lover of love and well written love stories and COAFW is filled with just that. Each story is able to reach all readers young and old, in love and seeking love and understanding. Best of all it is told from an Afrikan perspective. Stories like “Graduation” and “Newness” explore new and uncharted love. “Home” shows the power of honestly in relationships and rekindling past love. “Twins”, “Twwins” and “Twwwins” shows love and connecting spiritually with an individual from a science fiction perspective; which I found enlightening and intriguing. Many more stories make the pages that take you on the journey into the wonderful world of “Confessions of A Faithful Woman”. Happily this book is the first of a growing series that will evolve to encompass other elements of love live and relationships. I recommend this book to everyone. If you don't love all of the stories hopefully one of them will speak to your spirit.
~ Kita

OMG!!!!!!!!! Sis I love Confessions. I had no idea I would be cummin while reading this book. I mean dayum you got that erotic shit down pat. I think I was touching myself by page 43 but resisting the urge the whole time. KUDOS SIS!!!!!! Please feel free to share my review if you want. I don't think I have been that wet without a mate in the room in a very long time. Good damned job!!!!!!!
Anonymous

I wrestled with this one for a bit. Mostly because this is the first time I’ve seen sexuality explored freely through without being polarized into a “pornographic” or “mundane” experience. Milele’s triumph is that through her storytelling, she’s normalized the experience of divine sexuality. For those who may study Taoist alchemy, Tantra, or other traditions that recognizes the divinity in our sexual evolution and experience. We usually have to retreat to erotic poetry and art to explore these ideas in a context that goes beyond the instructional literature. There are many classics among Asian culture, but they can be hard to find and often many of the cultural references don’t translate well. The fact is who’ve embraced this lifestyle still live in the same reality and experience the same challenges that others who whether by habit or intent, treat sex as a recreational or limit it to procreation. We experience the same highs and lows that social, let alone sexual interaction inspire.
The stories are thrilling and challenge established cultural mores and limitations. Industrious minds will be inspired with new ideas and perspectives. Some will have their worlds rocked just to learn that their way isn’t the “ONLY way” to love somebody. Let alone love yourself! I for one can’t wait for the next chapter!
~Montague

Hey, hope your having an awesome day.. Your book was extremely sexual and it really turned on my bisexual side of me. It helps me to be comfortable in my 3 sums and LET GO instead of being controlling.. I love men but women definetly brings my sensual side. I admit I was so turned on that I never use my vibrator but I pulled it out a couple times to release.. Just that turned on kudos!! ~Anonymous

Your book is so perfect because it ties all planes together in a subject that most people do not even recognize they exist.  It truly is one of the most beautiful books I have ever read. I cannot wait for you to share more of your work. Your work intrigues me even more...about you. I can tell you are a very in tune, wise, pure, genuine woman & I just want to be around.  I have grown from reading your book. Thank you for that beloved. You inspire me, affirm my path and call me higher! ... It is truly something to connect with a woman who has been on her spiritual path for so long because I am the only one in my family or circle who is like that. You guide me from your depth of experience.  :) You have helped guide me so I can do just that; that is why I am so appreciative of you!!! Truly.
PenofPassion

AT LONG LAST!!!! I finally finished the book Had to put it down for a minute due to a deadline for some academic writing and to go on a family vacation....so sorry for the delay. Finished it on the plane cross country and I caught the dude in the middle seat peaking over to read it, so I gave it to him and he read th...e first part (hopefully he became hooked and will also purchase it). Feedback: Bravo, for real. It is beyond refreshing to experience the open expression of intimacy and arousal from a woman. Risky business, as u know, because we are so often judged negativity for liking sex, and....*gasp*....actually speaking honestly about it. This type of work paves the way for all of us, to experience freedom of sexual expression in its many forms. Then you went and included culturally-based themes and ideologies as well....you are GOOD, Milele!!! Honestly I have "non-traditional" views regarding monogamy, and when I talk about this, sometimes I feel people judging me...especially men. It's as if i am regarded as "one of those chicks who sleeps around", which is so far from the truth. “Confessions” addresses this reality, and others that are used to box people into social categories, and I am really diggin that! ~Anonymous

Good afternoon my beautiful sistar!
So over the weekend I was doing a bit of cleaning and I had down time on my hands so I told myself I would finally sit and start reading your book, Confessions. I had previously thumbed threw the book and looked at stories that Kita referenced but I had not read it for myself. So Sunday I poured a glass of wine...opened by windows...put on my favorite undies and sat and read your book. Can I just say Zane who? I've always loved reading books by Zane but you are my new Zane! You are better than she is when it comes to touching my mental and making me think. I am already half way through this book and I just started! The exciting thing about your book is that I can relate to it. The stories are similar to situations that I have encountered thus far in my life. I am a very sensual person and I always use to think that I was just too freaky...reading this books shows me that I'm just fine. Nothing is wrong with me and how I feel about sex and my body. I LOVE THIS BOOK AND I AM EXCITED FOR THE SECOND BOOK ALREADY! I'm so mad at myself that I just had this book sitting and had not given it the proper attention. I guess it was time for me to read it. I have been reading self help books for work and personal goals...and now it's time for me to read some self help for my sexual life. I love this book and I'm going to push for others to get this...it's amazing! I'm so happy to know you the beautiful woman that wrote this book. It felt good yesterday saying I'm reading my friend's book and she's an amazing author. My book even has highlighted pages already! There are some things I plan to try! Love this book and thank you for writing and sharing it with us all. <3 you
Freeberry

"I liked it; way different from anything I have ever read. Re-reading it. Eye opener."
~Anonymous

 "This book, this work is an important read. Our culture seeks to dis-connect us from our OWN divinity. " Confessions of a faithful Woman" , attempts to restore that connection, and to bring All humanbeings to a personal TRUTH! Please read" Dhati M. Kennedy

I went to Milele's book release yesterday and it was super cool... So the book is all types of steamy more than steamy but her aim was to bring together sexuality and spirituality... although i haven't read the whole book, well, hell, i'm though half of it in one day...and there are threesomes and swinging scenes and all types of fun stuff thrown in there to keep you interested...although I haven't read 50 shades of gray, i'm sure it's better."
-DeAndrea Blaylock, MSW Washington University, Christian Sex Therapist
 
Soul charged my spirit
Rejuvenated an old young being
Allowed me to see that
My experiences
Are my livelihoods ignition
Her
Love is
The purest
Nutrient replenishing
Nourishing
The crazed stage of womanhood
Her
Love is
What we've been missing
Milele
We'll have
Love
Most Genuine
Ever meet someone and feel that they were truly genuine, knew that they understood you! That connection that allowed you to be the truest you! I can't recall exactly how I begin to follow her when I initially joined twitter in 2009, but I will say 3 years and about 4 accounts later I've always made my way back to Milele!! Yea yea sounds a little groupie-ish, but coming from such a negatively dark spot in my life, her light was was an inspiration that I couldn't allow to leave my sphere! All of us tweet-birds know that our timelines become like an extended family, and Milele made me feel like a part of her family as she reached out to me during an extremely dark place in my life. I had just had a daughter from a man I barely knew, who happened to be sexually, mentally and physically abusive during my pregnancy; barely over that I entered a new relationship with a man that I'd fallen deeply for only to find out a year later that he was MARRIED. I lost weight (which at 5'3" 115 I couldn't afford to lose), I'm pretty sure that she felt my energy, sensed I needed some nurturing and made me feel beautiful, assured me that what I was going through didn't have to be the death of me!! Once I found out that she wrote, it was like the light got even brighter. So I was anticipating the release of her book, and then it happened, her genuinely positive demeanor was confirmed reality, as I felt every word of Confessions...of a Faithful Woman! Each story peered into a corner me!! From the deepest valley in me I Thank You Milele for giving pieces of you, and with pieces of you I have found peace in me!!
~Headwrappedra
 
This book is amazing because it causes you to change the way you see things. LOVE IT! Awesome read. Looking forward to the next edition in this series!

At a time when fluff and base porno-babble seem to dominate the world of romance/erotic writing, there has come a book of sensational detail and finesse, written from a Black perspective.
Confessions of a Faithful Woman is a celebration and collaboration of divine harmony and message, written by the talented and awe inspiring, Milele, who uses verbal imagery to exact erotic delight. Confessions… is structured in a very loose, but concise way. Her poem “Blending” is written in the same spirit and style of many poems and stories of the Black Arts Movement of the 70′s. In one line from the poem, “As they came together their juices caused the sky to rain…” Milele creatively places the letters of the word “rain” in a way to simulate rainfall right there on the page. Through the compilation, she blurs the lines of interpersonal, social and even literary “taboo,” and flings monotony, normalcy (as if there were such a thing) frigidity and prudishness to a gusting, yet discerning wind.
In the traditional African perspective, people are not defined by how they have their sex or with whom. Nodding to Sobunfo Some’s, Spirit of Intimacy, Milele’s stories and poems are not fettered, limited or restricted by any religious points of view.
The book is very easy to read containing many fictional, yet relatable scenarios. Milele even explores the creativity fantastic with “Twins.” Milele weaves dialogue that is frank and honest, but far beyond the conversations in your dime a dozen standard vernacular “urban” novels. This collection is not for children, the faint-of-heart or the easily-offended. It contains graphic word-play and smart innuendo….
B. Rustin Mound City NorthStar

Reading Confessions... of a faithful woman was like setting off on a journey of intense sensuality. Though fictional, the characters felt real - they're funny, sad, loving, confused, hurt, joyful, peaceful, searching, feisty and full of truth and depth. It was as if they could be everyday people that I know, me even. Each story and poem captured my imagination and opened my mind and spirit to new ideas and the true depth of intimacy and sharing. More than 200, almost 300 pages that pratically turned themselves as I read and was consumed by the freedom, pleasure and passion on each. Milele's Confessions... does not stop with the physicality of our connections, but goes deeper and explores the spirituality of our intimacy. AND this is only the first in a SERIES! Milele is off to a very good start, as I anxiously await more.
Trust me, this is a book you want to read, and with an open mind you may discover something new about yourself. I did
~DFY

Friday, May 10, 2013

"Blending" challenging the complexities of gender and sexuality


Blending
As he stood watching the sunset the sky turned
                       purple               then                  green                 then red.
                                     When it turned blue
he felt him approaching and his spirit aroused.
He appeared behind him and wrapped his energy about his waist. “My
love, at this crossing we shall blend.” They search each other for the
light and began to manifest physically. Tongues licked nipples, hands
rubbed bodies, lips felt moisture and tekkens entered door ways.
The two transformed:
man/man, woman/woman, woman/man, man/woman one
“We experience each other thru sound,”
                          led
                               to
                                   screams and moans
of wholeness.
As they came together their juices caused the skies to
                                                                      R
                                                                               A
                                                                                             I
                                                                                                    N

I chose this to go first in "Confessions of a faithful woman" to challenge the complexities of gender and sexuality in a very unambiguous and amusing manner.  In this post as it relates to “Blending”, I wanted to speak about “homosexuality,” but first let me say this:
YOU CAN NOT BE “CONSCIOUS” OR “AFRIKAN” OR “AFRIKAN CONSCIOUS” AND BE AGAINST HOMOSEXUALITY!!!!!!!!!!
This is not debatable. 
*****Note for this post***** I think in numbers, rhythms and equations, so you will have to do the math yourself *laughing hysterically internally*
Homosexuality is as natural as heterosexuality and exists in more than just human beings.  It has only been since religion was created and manipulated to control humanity that same-sex relationships have become a topic of discontent. You must understand the poli-tricks behind the “anti-homo” (gender-suppression) movement.
First, let’s start with the basics. In order to even consider the notion of “homo- vs. hetero-” as separate expressions of sexuality (which they are not), you have to buy into the domineering status quo notion of the sexes and accept the fallacy that there are only two (2) genders.
For centuries, ALL advanced cultures have recognized that there exist more than just man and woman, male and female.  Hermaphroditism is one of the most commonly accepted and acknowledged forms of “advanced gender” (as I like to call it). These are beings with both sets of reproductive organs; this IS NOT a genetic mutation but a natural condition.
But let’s get further into these complexities so we can forever be done with these nomenclatures.  We are physical and spiritual and masculine and feminine; without this specific combination, we are not human. What determines our unique gender expression is the degrees to which we are complementarily masculine or feminine. We could be:
*A woman with a dominance of masculine energy
*A woman with a dominance of feminine energy
*A woman with equal masculine and feminine energy
*A man with a dominance of masculine energy
*A man with a dominance of feminine energy
*A man with equal masculine and feminine energy
*A Blend (hermaphrodite, twin soul, gate keeper) with a dominance of masculine energy
*A Blend (hermaphrodite, twin soul, gate keeper) with a dominance of feminine energy
*A Blend (hermaphrodite, twin soul, gate keeper) with equal masculine and feminine energy
ETCETC  ETC

This doesn’t even begin to touch on how each of those physical and spiritual balance variances. For example, you can be a woman with 50.00000001% to 99.99999% feminine energy and 49.999999999% to .0000000001% masculine energy. But, if we limit gender to just “man” and “woman” we have disempowered, de-legitimized and discredited every other gender, AND simultaneously limited the expression of man and woman. With this in mind, we are ALL “straight,” “gay,” “bi-” and so forth.
Our spirit animates our bodies, so limiting our “sexual preference” to simply physical attributes denies the divinity of it.
Secondly, let us go deeper and look at the de-evolution of man and woman as sentient, sexual, fully- initiated beings.  There has been a multi-century campaign to suppress human evolution by dumbing down rites of passage or initiations. Only an Afrikan man can initiate an Afrikan boy into Afrikan manhood and only an Afrikan woman can initiate an Afrikan girl into Afrikan womanhood; this goes for Afrikan blends and sacred sexuality rites.
In many ancient customs (which I always refer to because they existed, flourished and evolved before mass oppression spread across the globe), the elders taught the youth about sex and used the sacred sex rituals (men with men, women with women, blends with blends and other varied combinations) based upon the needs of the person, people, society and universe.  In order to have been considered an adult in those societies, you had to go through and successfully complete the rites of that society. Without the understandings achieved in these initiations, we very rarely reach our full capacity.
Thirdly, sex and sexuality have been pressed into merely corporal acts, and as such, disconnect us from our higher capabilities, abilities and capacities. Sex is the quickest, easiest and most fulfilling way to “tap into” The Creator.  As we reach orgasm, we achieve a higher and broader state of consciousness (that’s part of the reason so many people enjoy cumming). With the proper knowledge and application, we can transfer that energy into anything we desire and can use it for creation, procreation, healing, expansion and enlightenment just for starters.
Fourth, the love that naturally permeates in any civilized society has been restrained and systematically extracted.  The “survival of the fittest” mentality that this society promotes pits people against each other instead of encouraging collectivity, mutual respect and genuine concern for ALL people.  We have to wrap our minds around the notion of loving all people because of our differences, not in spite of our differences. Our differences are an important part of who we are, and appreciating those differences is an true expression of love and understanding of the Creator. The Creator is vast and infinite, and has chosen to manifest itself in all those beautiful variations of people (and things) we see.  If we understand this basic principle, we can better understand, accept and enjoy ourselves and each other (no matter how different, odd, extraordinary or uncommon anyone else may seem) as intended.
Fifth- Man, NOT God (The Creator, Yahweh, Allah, Jehovah…) made sexuality gender-specific, ß that speaks for itself. However, I will say that we can be attracted to and aroused by all genders if we are tuned in enough to feel them; how we choose to act on it is up to us. But denial of this fact is subhuman. 
I could go on and on and on and on and on…. But let me nutshell it for you.

Sexuality is a divine physical expression of the great attraction, love and desire to be whole, complete and satiated that exists in the universe.  This great force is both genderless and encompassing of ALL genders.  We as humans are unique expressions of this force and are attracted to each other according to our vibes. Both homo and hetero sexuality are misnomers when understanding humanity in its entirety. IF you understand how the Creator works you will know that when one aspect of it is suppressed beyond repair it recreates it in multiplicity which is why there is a “rise of homosexuality”.  Being conscious means you are aware and accepting of the inner workers of the universe including everyone and everything’s role in it. Oppression based on gender or sexual expression among humans aint Afrikan. (Notice the PERIOD)
 
This may seem a little far fetched, but I challenge you to do more research and to expand your mind just a bit to accept one or more of these possibilities.  Check out: The Spirit of Intimacy; Facing Mt. Kenya; Egyptian Yoga; Three Magik words; or anything along this line and Re-re-re- read “Blending” with a new understanding.