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Last
night I almost did it. Yep,
exactly what you think “it” is only nastier. Hot, steamy, ass smacking, lip
locking, cheese omelet in the morning making fun.
Well not exactly. You see I have been on a
quest for self growth and personal growth. During this trek I have had little
to no sex and no sex for me equals a busy mind and a cramped hand. Blah, blah,
blah…So back to last night, boy I was ready. Phone in hand, text typed and ready to send. I was prepared to invite him over to a meeting. All he needed to bring was his thinking cap. I would joyfully provide the rest. Playlist ready. Fresh sheets. And little ole me freshly cleaned feeling light and limber. Ready for tons of dictation. So I sat eager and nervous all at the same time. My body told me I needed this. Hell my friends even said, I need some good dick and a nap. And here comes good old logic creeping in to remind me why I haven’t done it. DAMN
I have a Sistar De who is a sex therapist AskASexTherapist@gmail.com. https://www.facebook.com/pages/Ask-A-Sex-Therapist/444222249020042
So I used her expertise help with my problem. Here is our correspondence. Please email her if you have any questions. She is amazing.
Me to AskASexTherapist:
I think I broke my Virginia .
I was once a very active woman and now I'm not. It had been months since i had
had any kind of penetration. But I do masturbate quite frequently. I recently
had intercourse and I was unable to climax. I would be close and
thennnnn....Nothing! No matter how much rubbing, touching and or additional
stimuli I couldn't. Could it be a mental issue or is it just me?
Sincerely,
No happy endings for Virginia
AskASexTherapist to Me:
First of all, thanks for submitting your
question. I'll give a short answer on YouTube but wanted to respond to you in
written form as well.
The vagina is very resilient, so no
worries, you didn't break it. Because you're able to orgasm with
self-stimulation, that shows there are no problems with physical function. Have
you ever been able to climax through penetration? Or was it always a
combination of external clitoral stimulation and penetration?
Also, having an orgasm with a partner can,
at times, require a lot of trust. Sometimes we can be in our heads so much that
we forget to enjoy the sensations we're experiencing. If we're focusing so much
on climaxing, it becomes an obstacle for our bodies and minds.
If you'd like more info or would like to
discuss it further, just let me know!
Me to AskASexTherapist:
Thanks for answering. Yes, I have able to
climax through penetration only. I think it may have been the guy and my mind.
I have found that since treat people and my body differently my reactions to
things have changed. I know casual sex is not what I want to i feel that by
having it I couldn't climax because my mind wouldn't make the connection. But
it could have just been him.
Thanks again,
AskASexTherapist to Me:
And there it is.
You've been doing a lot of work to give
yourself your best and when you experience something that doesn't measure up to
your new standards, it's not fulfilling. True, he could've been a bad lay, but
you've also been filling your mind, body, and spirit with the best you can
provide. On some level, it could be that your body and spirit have a taste for
something other than what was offered
SO I sat horny as a teenage boy with this
information. As bad as I want to I won’t have sex. Unless there is a true
connection, a mental and physical connection I’m good.. Any man can play with
your body but I want mind sex. The kind that makes you want to nurture that
person. Find his likes and dislikes and help further his dreams. The type of
loving that can do more with just words than the hands ever could. I’m not say
in giving up on the physical. Hell NOO! I love it, it is need but until I can
have both my Virginia will be on
ice.